03.12.2009
THE POSITIVE PARENT CONFIDENCE CAMPAIGN
Drinking, promiscuity and a cycle of low expectation means that Britain is fast becoming the “bad parent” of the Western World according to the Organisation for Economic Co-Operation and Development OECD, who compared data from 30 leading countries on children’s welfare.
So as a Parent Coach my natural instinct is to ask better, more empowering questions and not stay stuck and swirling in recriminations, blame and finger pointing.
To watch my video in response to The Nation Of Bad Parents Daily Mail Headline click here
So……
• Where are we going wrong specifically?
• At what ages and stages are we failing to support, nurture, guide and lead our children?
• Are we afraid to say “NO” to our children?
• Are we afraid to put boundaries around our teenagers?
• Do we know what we stand for, and what our actual values are as a family?
• How do we then pass those values on to our children effectively, clearly and confidently – by example or by hollow words?
• What examples do we set for our kids in our drinking habits, our healthy eating and in our own sexual behaviour?
• What sort of role models are we?
• Why are our children so unhappy that they have to get “legless” every weekend?
• Why do they look for love and connection at disco’s and fall pregnant so easily?
• When are we failing to cherish, nurture and spend real time with our children so they feel heard, understood and loved?
• Do we need to feel more in control of our parenting, more at ease being assertive, and able to LEAD our children with true confidence?
• Do we need to have higher expectations of behaviour throughout the raising of our children, higher expectations for them in Life, in career, in school achievement, in our communities and in society as a whole?
• And if we do then how can we do that?
• What needs to change so that we teach them clearly and specifically what we expect of them?
• How can we expect them to behaviour well, show compassion and be tolerant of others and give and contribute to Life for no apparent reason?
• What needs to change within us, our family and in our mindset to give them self respect, dignity, tenacity and happiness?
Barack Obama is not afraid to speak out publically about the importance of children succeeding at school as he is a living example of a black man who readily agrees that he nearly went off the rails himself, on more than one occasion, in his teenage years, yet through his mother’s determination, strong values and high expectations he walked one small step at a time along the long march to the White House.
• Why?
• Why is he so different?
• What can we all learn from him?
• What can we do to inspire our children to have BIG DREAMS, HIGH IDEALS and a compelling belief in themselves to succeed in Life – whatever that means for them – and not just by turning up at The X Factor with little or no talent looking for a lucky break?
• How can we help them, coach them and guide them into writing down goals, visualising them regularly and taking the very small steps every single day into making them come true over time?
I am passionate about being part of that vision – supporting, empowering and leading parents throughout the UK in the often very difficult job of raising happy, confident , well-balanced adults, because they are today’s children but they are tomorrow ‘s future.
It takes courage, commitment, tenacity and patience to bring up children.
It takes energy, drive and passion to teach them, guide them and instil discipline within them until they develop the necessary skills of self discipline for themselves.
We owe it to our children to help them be the best they can be for themselves - fulfilling their true potential and living a life free from the crippling effects of low self esteem, depression and low expectations.
That’s why I am so truly driven to write my CDs and Toolkits, run my workshops and write my books and blogs late into the night, as parents want the skills, strategies, techniques and positive mindset that sets them apart.
We can create a compelling, hopeful, wonderful future for our children but we need to be brave and mature and honest enough to put up our hands if we find we are struggling - because kids don’t come with a handbook and one size doesn’t fit all when it comes to kids – they are all unique, all special and all precious.
They deserve us to not to abandon them through our own insecurities, inadequacies, short comings or pride.
They deserve us to be the best we can be for them – and perhaps we need a more meaningful and inspiring twist to the famous L’Oreal advert “because our children are worth it”
My next workshop “How to succeed as a BRILLIANT Parent " on Saturday 20th March1 2010
or my ~Beat Bullying~ Confidence Classes for Kids. Helping children feel good about themselves is on Saturday 22nd May
So please do me a favour if you know of anyone who would be intererested in my work feel free to tell them about me, my articles, workshops and my mission – Twitter this, pass it forward, print it off and give it to your friends, neighbours, schools, nurseries, PTA’s, MP’s or anyone involved with parents and children.
Britain needs to create an uplifting cycle of hope, vision, leadership and dreams with practical and fun ways to turn those dreams into real goals with a date – free from judgement, criticism, finger pointing and ridicule.
It's about passion to make a real change in the UK but the question is ………………..
Will you join me?
To view my video in response to the Daily Mail article, click here
email me at sue@positive-parents.com or feel free to post your support here on my blog
Click on this link to reserve your child's place on my May 2010 Workshop
~Beat Bullying~
Confidence Classes for Kids. Helping children feel good about themselves
and click here to reserve YOUR place on my next ~ Confidence Classes ~ for parents who want to be the best !
on 20th February
www.positive-parents.com
sue@positive-parents.com
T: 01342 833355
"Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much"
~ Helen Keller
"Hey .... that was EASY " Confidence Campaign !!
One very simple thing you can do with your kids is to nip out and buy a "That was Easy" button from Staples....... until I design my own !!
It’s a really simple, easy and brilliant way to anchor confidence in a child’s unconscious and to attach doing new things and having a go, to feelings of success as it builds confidence and self esteem instantly through just having fun and being relaxed. The kids just run over and push their “ Hey... that was EASY! ” button and laugh !
An anchor is when your mood changes in response to some trigger or stimulus and your unconscious registers it every time you see it, hear it or feel it.
A bit like going to the fridge to get a snack after seeing an advert on the telly or like jumping up at a party when your favourite song comes on that reminds you of going to college, someone’s birthday or a romance that’s become “our song”!
Building and anchoring confidence with the “ Hey... that was EASY! ” button sounding out loud and clear is funny and is a wonderfully positive experience for kids.
So just imagine that your family had a “ Hey... that was EASY! ” button in your kitchen and your kids ran over and pressed it anytime they did something new , overcame something difficult, did something they found unpleasant or something out of their comfort zone and just had a go!
Just think of the power to their confidence as they learnt their 7x tables, learnt to tie their shoelaces or use the potty, wrote their coursework, answered the phone and took a message, tidied their room, put away their toys, learnt to drive or read their reading book ! – the list is endless and only limited by your imagination and pressed the “Hey... that was EASY” button !
What a wonderfully simple way to boost your child’s self esteem and develop the “have a go” mentality so important to success in Life.
Just imagine if families started to do this fun thing from the moment their kids were born….. just think how much more relaxed, optimistic and happy kids would be.
Just think, you could use it too when you didn't shout, didn't nag or got something right with your kids or when you did something new for the first time too, like struggling with the frustration over online banking, speaking up at a meeting or salsa dancing!!!
I am passionate about helping kids grow up free from the crippling effects of low self- esteem so if you think this is a great and fun idea pass my blog on to all your friends and let’s make growing up positive and fun!
Why don’t you get one for your kitchen, office, classroom or nursery…….. and all of you can have fun making life, learning and living easier .
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if all nurseries, schools, colleges, gymnastics clubs, dance clubs, sport’s clubs all had a “ Hey... that was EASY! ” button too?
Join my campaign for building confident parents and confident kids in all sorts of places………… sounds like it could be brilliant fun and a very, very easy way to build your child's self esteem and self confidence !!
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